“If at first you don’t succeed try, try and try again.”  — Robert the Bruce, king of Scotland

There really is something to that. Very rarely is success achieved on the first attempt. That doesn’t mean you should give up. Think about where you’d be if as a child the first time you tried to walk and fell down you gave up and never tried again. Instead you tried over and over and over again until you succeeded.

Have you heard of the Confidence Competency Loop? It looks like this:

There’s some new thing you want to do, skill you want to learn, new habit you want to create, etc. You try it and fail or make a mistake. There’s nothing wrong with that! It should be expected. It’s normal. In the process of failing you learn and gain knowledge. Then you try again. It may take multiple tries and fails before you have success. It’s okay! That’s what’s supposed to happen. It’s how life works.

The point is to get started and make an attempt. You’ll never know what you’re capable of if you never try or if you give up too soon. Need inspiration? Think about Thomas Edison, Colonel Sanders, Jeff Bezos, Howard Schultz, J.K. Rowling, and Nathan Chen to name a few. Do a Google search if you aren’t familiar with their stories. They all failed multiple times before they experienced success.

Go ahead. Take a few moments right now to think about what it is you want to do. Write it down. Then get to work. Try, fail, learn, try, fail, learn as many times as it takes. Each time you’ll gain more knowledge and confidence. Somewhere along the way your goal may change. In the end it’s not about the destination but the journey and who you become along the way!

Your brain is going to put up a fight. Don’t listen to it! Say cancel, cancel, cancel. Interrupt the negative self talk. The brain can’t hold more than one thought at a time.

Tools to Help Manage the Mind
  • Declarations and affirmations — A declaration is to state an official intention or to undertake a particular course of action. An affirmation is the an act of saying or showing that something is true. As though it’s already happened. Utilizing either, or both, of these is most affective when you say them aloud in from of a mirror.
  • Essential oils — There are many oils that can support mindset and emotions. I use them every day for that purpose. Not sure how to do it or what oils to use? I can help you. Click the button below and we can chat.
  • Mentors — There have been lots of great books written and many YouTube videos to watch that can help you with mindset. One that I’m really loving right now is The High 5 Habit book by Mel Robbins. A few people to check out are Marissa Peer, Louise Hay, Lisa Nicol, T Harv Eker, and Bob Proctor.
Somewhere along the line we learned that failing is bad. It’s not. Failing is a necessary process in the pursuit of mastery.

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Note: There may be affiliate links in this post. • I am not a doctor. All information is for educational use only and is not intended as a substitute for advice from your physician or other health care professional.


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